Goal setting

This is a failsafe method of achieving what you want to achieve, if you follow all the steps. However it is invariably better if you have someone to help you to achieve these goals. (That is whee your coach comes in....)

1. State your goal in positive terms. That is state what you want, not what you don't want. i.e' I don't want to be in this relationship' is not a vaiable goal. What is it you really do want?

2. Be specific. There is no point in saying 'I want more money' - I can give you 5p and you have more money.

3. Is it realistic? This is where only you know if whether it is realistic for you to have what it is you are aiming for. However - this cannot be used as an excuse for not aiming high.

4. Is it in your control? There is no point in having a goal to have x person love you for that is not in your control for it is dependent on the vagaries of the behaviour of that other person. Your goals can only be goals which you can influence.

5. Are there any reasons why you should not have this/do this? It is important to eliminate any objections in your mind.

6. Imagine what it will be like when you have achieved this. Create in your mind a picture of yourself having achieved what it is you want to achieve so that you have something to focus on in order to achieve what you want to achieve.

7. Action. Nothing, but nothing, will be achieved without action. You have to go out and make it happen for yourself. No one else will do it for you!